This post is all about things to never do during sorority recruitment.
Going through sorority recruitment can feel like an emotional rollercoaster—trust me, I’ve been there. After experiencing recruitment from both sides, I’ve seen so many mistakes that no one warns you about. So, I’m here to help you avoid those awkward moments and get through rush week with confidence and grace!
Recruitment is an exciting but overwhelming time. You’re meeting tons of new people, trying to figure out where you belong, and maybe even overthinking every little thing. But remember, this process is about finding your future sisters, the girls who will become your friends and family during college and beyond.
Here are 15 things to never do during sorority recruitment, so you can shine as the best version of yourself and find the sorority that’s truly right for you.
15 Things To Never Do During Sorority Recruitment
1. Don’t Get Your Heart Set on One Sorority
I can’t stress this enough. Walking into recruitment thinking, “I HAVE to be in this sorority” is setting yourself up for disappointment. I’ve seen girls cry on the second day because they were dropped by the sorority they were obsessed with. Keep an open mind—you’ll end up exactly where you’re meant to be.
2. Engage in the Conversation
It’s shocking how many girls barely talk during recruitment. Even if you’re not vibing with a specific sorority, make an effort. Sororities talk, and if word spreads that you weren’t engaged, it could hurt your chances elsewhere.
Be present, answer their questions, and show genuine interest—you’ll make better connections, which is what recruitment is all about!
3. Don’t Over-Dress or Under-Dress
Follow the dress code. Recruitment outfits are themed for a reason, and while it’s great to show a little individuality, don’t overdo it. You want to stand out in a good way, not for being the one who didn’t follow the vibe.
4. Ask Questions About Their Philanthropy on Philanthropy Day
Philanthropy day is about connecting with each sorority’s cause. Most sisters have a deep, personal tie to their philanthropy, so show genuine curiosity. Ask questions—it’s a simple way to show that you care about what matters to them.
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5. Don’t Let Outside Opinions Sway You
Every sorority has a reputation, but don’t let that cloud your judgment. Your experience will be unique, and you should choose based on where YOU feel comfortable, not what others say.
6. Never Talk Badly About ANY Sorority
Girls talk—especially sorority girls. If you trash-talk one sorority, it’s almost guaranteed to get back to them, and it could hurt you across the board. Be kind and respectful, even if you’re not interested in a particular chapter.
7. Be Yourself and Let Them Be Themselves
Recruitment isn’t about pretending to be someone you’re not. Be yourself, and let the sisters show you who they are, too. Some of my best recruitment conversations happened when we bonded over random things like movies or favorite restaurants.
8. KNOW AND FOLLOW THE RULES.
Recruitment comes with rules, and they exist for a reason. For example, avoid talking about boys, drugs, money, or parties—it’s just not the time or place.
Instead, focus on what excites you about joining a sorority and what you’re looking for in a sisterhood.
9. Don’t Be Too Hard on Yourself
Rush week can be emotionally exhausting, and that’s okay. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, take a breather, cry if you need to, and remind yourself why you’re doing this. You’ll get through it!
10. Clean Up Your Social Media
Your social media represents you—and the sorority you join. Take down anything that might be questionable (like party pics) or set your accounts to private. It’s better to be safe than sorry.
11. Treat the Sisters Like Friends
Don’t make the conversation feel like an interview. Introduce yourself, ask how their day is going, and let things flow naturally. Friend vibes are the best vibes.
12. Keep Your Attention on the Sister You’re Talking To
This might sound obvious, but don’t get distracted. Make eye contact, stay engaged, and don’t let your gaze wander around the room. It shows that you’re genuinely interested in getting to know them.
13. BODY LANGUAGE MATTERS!
Your body language matters. If your arms are crossed and you seem uninterested – do not expect a bid.
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13. Watch Your Body Language
Crossed arms and slouching? Not a good look. Your body language speaks louder than words, so sit up straight, smile, and show that you’re excited to be there.
14. Talk About Your Hobbies and Interests
The sisters want to know what makes you you. Share your favorite clubs, hobbies, or even your dream travel destinations. Finding common ground makes the conversation easier and more meaningful.
15. Always Be Respectful
At the end of the day, recruitment is about mutual respect. These sisters went through the same process you’re going through, and they genuinely want to welcome new members into their sisterhood. Treat them the way you’d want to be treated, and you’ll leave a great impression.
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