Now, after going through recruitment on the other side, I have seen girls make numerous mistakes that someone needs to talk about. Hopefully, after this post about 15 things to never do during sorority recruitment, you won’t make the same mistakes.
Sorority recruitment can be a stressful time for any potential new members (aka PNMs). I remember when I went through sorority rush – sorority recruitment – I didn’t know if I should talk more or let them lead the conversation.
As a PNM it is normal to feel anxious, nervous, and sometimes even overwhelmed. You are trying to make a big decision while meeting so many different people.
Joining a sorority means calling these girls your sisters, friends, and overall family.
Now let’s get into
15 Things To Never Do During Sorority Recruitment
1. DO NOT GET YOUR HEART SET ON ONE SORORITY.
This is SOO important. When I went through recruitment, a lot of girls were crying on the second day because they got dropped from “their” sorority. You need to figure out which ones you like and don’t but not have your heart set on a specific one.
Remember you will end up in the home you are meant to.
2. YOU HAVE TO TALK TO THE SISTER (AKA BE ENGAGED).
You would be shocked how many girls do not talk. I understand if that sorority will not be on your list by the end of the day – but girls talk. Every sorority will find out that you did not talk to them and you will get dropped from them all.
Also, be engaged in the conversation. If they ask you a question, answer it. Remember when you are in greek life, you will see them at events and will want to make good connections.
3. DO NOT OVER-DRESS OR UNDER-DRESS.
Follow the dress code. You will be walking into a room where everyone is dressed in the exact theme. It is good to be different and unique but do not try to show off.
4. ON PHILANTHROPY DAY, TALK ABOUT THEIR PHILANTHROPY.
Philanthropy day is when each sorority tells you about the charity they raise money for. Most of the time, sisters have a personal connection to that philanthropy. The whole day is designed for you to ask questions about it.
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By not asking questions, you are telling them that you may not care about the charity and may not be a good fit in their sisterhood.
5. BE AWARE OF HOW OUTSIDE OPINIONS ARE AFFECTING YOU.
Every sorority has a reputation but try not to let outside opinions affect yours.
You will be surrounded by women going through the exact thing you are going through. However, each person’s experience is different, and make decisions based on what you want.
6. DO NOT TALK BADLY ABOUT ANY SORORITY.
Girls talk and more importantly sorority girls talk. I have a friend in every sorority. For instance, if a PNM was talking bad about one, I will be talking to my friend and you would most likely end up getting dropped from them all.
7. BE YOURSELF… AND LET THEM BE THEMSELVES.
The sister wants to find out who you are, not who you are pretending to be. However, it is also important to let them be themselves. Meaning, if they are talking about their hobbies, be interested and respectful. I remember during my recruitment, I talked to a member about movies for 30 minutes because the conversation was just flowing. I am still friends with her years later.
8. KNOW AND FOLLOW THE RULES.
You and the sister have certain rules each have to follow. For instance, she can not add you on social media during sorority recruitment.
Do not talk about:
- Boys.
- Drugs.
- Money.
- Parties.
Instead, talk about why you are wanting to join a sorority or what you are looking forward to.
9. DO NOT BE HARD ON YOURSELF.
Rush week can be hectic and your emotions will be all over the place. It’s okay to cry and feel upset. Just try to relax and let yourself enjoy the week or weekend.
10. LOOK OVER YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA.
Many people seem to forget that you will be representing the sorority you join.
Meaning, your social media will be looked at and you need to remove any pictures with alcohol or drugs or at parties. Or at the very least go private and don’t let anyone follow you.
11. TREAT THEM AS YOUR FRIEND.
Do not ask them question after question. Start the conversation off by introducing yourself and asking them how their day is. It is important to ask questions but wait until it’s the right time to ask them.
12. KEEP YOUR ATTENTION ON THE SISTER.
Be engaged when speaking to the sister. Try to keep your attention on the sister instead of looking around the room or staring at the table in front of you.
13. BODY LANGUAGE MATTERS!
Your body language matters. If your arms are crossed and you seem uninterested – do not expect a bid.
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14. TALK ABOUT CLUBS AND HOBBIES.
The sister you are talking to wants to learn about you. Tell them about the stuff you enjoy and see if you guys can find something in common. When you can find something in common, it makes it 10x easier to ask questions and figure out if you want to be their sister.
15. BE RESPECTFUL PLEASE.
I wanted to end this post with this one because treating someone as you would want to be treated is the standard.
These are college women who went through the same thing you did and truly want to figure out if they can call you a sister. Be understanding and treat them with respect.
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